In case you didn’t know, that wedding that you were working today…
IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU!
Now that you’re here, I would like to formally discuss the elephant in the room; Your Ego. That pesky part of your brain that makes you assume that you’re the only one in the room that matters. I am so sorry to be the one to break it to you, you’re not.
Those of us in the wedding industry for a long time have come across vendors from time to time we don’t jive with for one reason or another. We generally brush it off and continue our business doing what we were hired to do, because that is after all the reason we are there in the first place – to do a job.
After a recent wedding, we have really had to stop and reflect and decided to create this post. Those of you who have worked with us know we/I am far too honest, and maybe just bold enough to say what needs to be said.
After the events of the weekend, I am urging those of you in the wedding industry to stop with the ego, and start realizing we are all a community of vendors hired to make the couples wedding day the very best that it can be.
That means RESPECTING one another. As soon as you step foot in the door, everything you do should be for your clients.
It shouldn’t have to be said, but apparently, there are some out there who didn’t read the “Wedding Vendor For Dummies” handbook. There is never a time when another vendor should be telling someone else how to do their job during a wedding. For example, a DJ has ZERO say in how a videographer uses lav mic’s to capture audio during the ceremony for a wedding film (telling the JP it’s not needed is not your place). No other vendor should dictate the hours you work or the equipment that is being used. Above all else, you as a vendor should NEVER be touching another vendor’s equipment without consent just because it doesn’t “work for you”. In that case, you’re right, It isn’t meant to “work” for you. That equipment is how I (or you) do our jobs, and when you damage it in your attempt to turn it off because you don’t feel it is “needed” we are left with added costs and fixes.
Instead, if you have questions about why a vendor is doing something ask. When they explain their reasoning, don’t dismiss them or undermine them. After all, they are hired by the couple because of what they do.
Our last wedding was a teachable experience sadly at the expense of the couple and it serves as a great reminder of why it is so important that vendors work together and stop the “it’s about me” attitude. It isn’t about you. It is about the couple that hired you to do a job!
Our business has worked in the wedding and event industry for over 17 years. We have served well over 1,000 events and worked with hundreds of vendors throughout the years. Until this past wedding, we had never experienced another vendor that had tried to “run the show” to the point that said vendor tried to tell us to stop working because it didn’t “work” for him.
This behavior is unacceptable. The wedding you were hired for isn’t about you and your ego. If you think it is, you are in the wrong industry.
17 Year Wedding Professionals